All posts by Lesa Peterson

Drama Triangle

In the intricate dance of human relationships, conflict is inevitable. However, how we navigate these conflicts can determine whether they become constructive or destructive. One particularly dysfunctional method of conflict resolution is the Drama Triangle, characterized by three roles: the Victim, the Rescuer, and the Persecutor.

At the heart of the Drama Triangle lies a cycle of dysfunction where individuals switch between these roles, perpetuating conflict rather than resolving it. The Victim feels powerless, often portraying themselves as the innocent sufferer of circumstances beyond their control. The Rescuer swoops in, taking on the responsibility to fix the situation for the Victim, but often inadvertently disempowers them by not allowing them to take agency in resolving their own issues. Meanwhile, the Persecutor blames the Victim for the problem, creating a sense of guilt or shame.

Breaking free from this cycle requires a conscious effort to cultivate self-awareness, ownership, and empowerment.

Self-Awareness: The first step towards breaking free from the Drama Triangle is recognizing when you are engaging in these roles. Are you portraying yourself as the Victim, feeling powerless in a situation? Are you assuming the role of the Rescuer, taking on responsibilities that aren’t yours to bear? Or are you acting as the Persecutor, blaming others for the conflict? By becoming aware of these patterns, you can begin to interrupt the cycle.

Ownership: Instead of casting yourself as a passive Victim or a heroic Rescuer, take ownership of your role in the conflict. Acknowledge your contributions, whether through actions, words, or attitudes. By accepting responsibility for your part, you empower yourself to actively participate in finding a resolution.

Seek Empowerment: Rather than relying on others to solve your problems or attempting to solve theirs, seek empowerment by taking proactive steps to address the situation. This may involve setting boundaries, expressing your needs and concerns assertively, and actively collaborating with others to find mutually beneficial solutions.

Voice Your Needs: Effective communication is essential for breaking free from the Drama Triangle. Instead of resorting to blame or manipulation, clearly articulate your needs, feelings, and boundaries. Encourage others to do the same, fostering open and honest dialogue that promotes understanding and empathy.

By cultivating self-awareness, taking ownership of our actions, seeking empowerment, and voicing our needs, we can break free from the destructive cycle of the Drama Triangle. In doing so, we empower ourselves and others to engage in healthier, more constructive conflict resolution methods, ultimately fostering stronger and more fulfilling relationships.

Sound Healing

One of the most frequent questions people ask me is, what is sound healing and how can it help me? Sound healing is an ancient practice that has been used for centuries to promote healing in the body, mind, and spirit. It involves the use of therapeutic sound waves to balance and harmonize the energy body.

Sound heals the body by returning the flow of energy within it. The vibrations that are produced in sound healing move through us allowing stuck energy to flow freely. It’s like what happens when you drop a stone into a lake, it creates a ripple throughout the entire body of water. Because our bodies are 60% water, sound is a great way to restore flow and balance.

Sound healing known for its ability to bypass the thoughts that clutter our minds and assist in slowing the mind. Sound healing can change the state of our brains, creating space for deep meditation, relaxation and regeneration. Sound moves us from our conscious minds into our subconscious where we can access intuition, creativity and guidance.

The soul is nourished by sound as our mind and bodies come into balance and harmony. As we feel a deeper connection within ourselves, we begin to feel more of the unconditional love that comes from the connection of Source, and gratitude grows within us.

As energetic beings we yearn for flow and balance in our bodies, sound healing is an easy and effective way to find that. To learn more about sound healing join me at one of my sound healing certification classes or contact me for a private sound healing session at



When we drop into ourselves in the now is when the magic happens. The more we practice staying in that state the more we find ourselves. We all have our own innate wisdom, we just need to uncover it.

We have been fooled into believing that our answers are found outside ourselves. We have fallen into the belief that “someplace else is better and more is all I’ll ever need.”

It’s when we go within and sit with all that we find, that we can truly be healed. Allow what is, to be. When we fight with the energy it persists. It’s in accepting what is, allowing it, loving it, and finding the message to us in it, that it will pass through and be transmuted.

The Shadow Self

Over the past few months, I’ve noticed my awareness of shadows. My shadow as I walked in the mornings, the shadows of the leaves on the trees as they danced in the wind. 

Recently I’ve found myself taking a lot of photographs which isn’t my norm. I’ve felt this creative vibe and I have been out in nature more. 

On a recent trip, I started taking pictures of rocks and plants in a stream trying to get just that right shot as if I was a photographer for a nature magazine. I was so surprised at myself. 

On my walk back to where I was staying I found myself taking pictures of my shadow standing in front of a yucca and it made me stop and think about the shadow side of myself.

I saw a different side of my shadow self that morning. I thought about how much I hide those things that live in the shadows that I don’t like about myself nor do I want others to see. 

Standing there looking at my shadow falling on the yucca, I was in great introspection. By cutting off the dark I can only shine so bright. I realized that I need to love those dark places in myself to free myself from them. 

They are part of me that I used to respond to struggles in my life. I can’t just throw them out or act like they don’t exist. I need to love them and thank them for protecting me and guiding me all these years. 

I have outgrown those responses as I have new and better tools to deal with life, but I was still using all those old ways to respond to situations simply because I didn’t know any better.

In total darkness is when our light shines the brightest. It’s all about balancing the dark and the light within ourselves. We must understand and love all that we are.

Peace & love


The River Cannot Go Back

It is said that before entering the sea a river trembles with fear. She looks back at the path she has traveled, from the peaks of the mountains, the long winding road crossing forests and villages. And in front of her, she sees an ocean so vast, that to enter there seems nothing more than to disappear forever. But there is no other way. The river cannot go back. Nobody can go back. To go back is impossible in existence. The river needs to take the risk of entering the ocean because only then will fear disappear, because that’s where the river will know it’s not about disappearing into the ocean, but of becoming the ocean.

-Kahlil Gibran-

Let It Go

Have you ever stopped to think how much all your possessions are holding you back?

All your things have an energy attached to them. You spend daily energy caring for the things even if you don’t remember you have them or where they are… lol…

Why are you keeping things that you no longer need or don’t absolutely love?

Did someone give it to you and you are afraid that they might come over and notice that it’s gone?

Is it something that gives “evidence” to a past event like a trophy or a prom dress that gives you value?

Are you keeping it because you might need it in the future even though you haven’t used it for 5 years?

We all keep things for a lot of different reasons, all those things keep us from moving forward in our life.

New things cannot come into our lives until we make room for them. We must let go of things that we no longer need or are no longer useful to our lives.

It can be difficult to let those things go, but holding on to things that we haven’t used in years keeps that “lack” mentally around. The Universe loves us and is just waiting to give to us. A true friend will understand our growth and be happy for us even when we part with a gift from them.

You are a worthy and awesome person right now, you don’t need those things from the past to tell you you’re great!

If you are struggling to let go of things try this, take pictures of the things as you let go of them, then put your pictures of those things in an album to “keep” and “remember”.

You don’t need to clear out a whole room to feel the effects of letting go. Start with your “junk” drawer you will be surprised what can come into your life from that one small act.